An Adoptee on Her Birthday, or, The Day I Wish I Had Emerged From a Pod

by: Rebecca Peacock Dragon Today is the fifth birthday I have had since knowing who actually birthed me.  The fifth birthday I have had since knowing what family I was birthed into, the family I was meant to be in.  The family that I resemble, share DNA with, and a common heritage.  The fifth birthday … Continue reading An Adoptee on Her Birthday, or, The Day I Wish I Had Emerged From a Pod

Formula-Finding: One Way Adoptive Parents Harm Adoptees

by: Rebecca Peacock Dragon                Recently, a social media page for a magazine with a fairly large following posted the following question:  “If you're an adult adoptee, what advice can you give to current adoptive parents?”  Although I generally find these questions to be a kind of trap for adoptees: respond accordingly if you don’t … Continue reading Formula-Finding: One Way Adoptive Parents Harm Adoptees

Reunion Repulsion – Let Yourself Get Disembodied if You Can. Float.

By: Rebecca Peacock Dragon ***CONTENT WARNING:  adoption reunion/domestic (for those who have not had, cannot have, or have had traumatic experiences with adoption reunion, this piece may be unsettling…for others, I hope this makes you feel seen)                One of my Adoptionland besties, someone that I came into advocacy with (and also semi-retired with), recently … Continue reading Reunion Repulsion – Let Yourself Get Disembodied if You Can. Float.

How Will You Change Your Mind About Adoption

by: Liz DeBetta I teach writing at a university in Utah, which is a very white, conservative, pro-adoption state. Just this week my students gave presentations in class called “Book Talks” based on a memoir/non-fiction book of their choice. I had given them a list of options at the beginning of the semester and each … Continue reading How Will You Change Your Mind About Adoption

The BITE Model, Part Two: Information Control

In part one (read part one first), we examined the “B” of the BITE model: Behavior Control.  In this second part we move on to the I: Information Control.  As a refresher, let’s establish what the BITE Model is, and also present our caveats. The BITE Model was developed by Steven Hassan of the Freedom … Continue reading The BITE Model, Part Two: Information Control