Pick A Mom

by: Alana Hart For the first time in my life, I have the opportunity to have both my first and adoptive mothers around my table for Thanksgiving. “Great!” you are probably thinking to yourself. What an opportunity to unite and feel thankful! However, as an adoptee nothing is straight forward or easy. Instead, the guilt … Continue reading Pick A Mom

How Will You Change Your Mind About Adoption

by: Liz DeBetta I teach writing at a university in Utah, which is a very white, conservative, pro-adoption state. Just this week my students gave presentations in class called “Book Talks” based on a memoir/non-fiction book of their choice. I had given them a list of options at the beginning of the semester and each … Continue reading How Will You Change Your Mind About Adoption

The BITE Model, Part Two: Information Control

In part one (read part one first), we examined the “B” of the BITE model: Behavior Control.  In this second part we move on to the I: Information Control.  As a refresher, let’s establish what the BITE Model is, and also present our caveats. The BITE Model was developed by Steven Hassan of the Freedom … Continue reading The BITE Model, Part Two: Information Control

The BITE Model Applied to the Adoption Industry and Mainstream Adoption Narrative

Part One: Introduction and Behavior Control By: Becca Dragon This is going to be a four part series, examining the BITE model by Steven Hassan as it relates to our mainstream adoption narrative and industry in the United States.  What is the BITE model?  According to the Freedom of Mind Resource Center, “Many people think … Continue reading The BITE Model Applied to the Adoption Industry and Mainstream Adoption Narrative

Life Lessons For Adoptees From The Clueless People

by: Becca Dragon with Stephanie (a fellow adoptee) and a crew of other adoptees who are in our closed adoptee-only group. As someone who runs a public platform dedicated to showcasing and elevating the adoptee voice in authenticity, I hear a ton of very exhausting and repetitive objections from the non-adopted.  Anyone who has floated … Continue reading Life Lessons For Adoptees From The Clueless People

Adoption Micro-Disruptions

Adoption Micro-Disruptions by Becca Dragon We hear it all the time “REAL families are the ones the ones that:             FOR CHILDREN:             -stay up with you all night when you are crying             -provide you with all of your opportunities             -kiss your booboos             THEN ALSO AS WE BECOME ADULTS:             -are in … Continue reading Adoption Micro-Disruptions