The BITE Model, Part Two: Information Control

In part one (read part one first), we examined the “B” of the BITE model: Behavior Control.  In this second part we move on to the I: Information Control.  As a refresher, let’s establish what the BITE Model is, and also present our caveats. The BITE Model was developed by Steven Hassan of the Freedom … Continue reading The BITE Model, Part Two: Information Control

The BITE Model Applied to the Adoption Industry and Mainstream Adoption Narrative

Part One: Introduction and Behavior Control By: Becca Dragon This is going to be a four part series, examining the BITE model by Steven Hassan as it relates to our mainstream adoption narrative and industry in the United States.  What is the BITE model?  According to the Freedom of Mind Resource Center, “Many people think … Continue reading The BITE Model Applied to the Adoption Industry and Mainstream Adoption Narrative

I Am Not “Supposed” to Be Here

Even with some personal spiritual/religious beliefs, I feel fairly certain that I am not supposed to be here. The Creation of Me was a moral failing according most religious and societal tenets. Born to teenaged parents (married, but teens nonetheless), I was a mistake that needed a more "stable" older couple to redeem. One man's … Continue reading I Am Not “Supposed” to Be Here

Life Lessons For Adoptees From The Clueless People

by: Becca Dragon with Stephanie (a fellow adoptee) and a crew of other adoptees who are in our closed adoptee-only group. As someone who runs a public platform dedicated to showcasing and elevating the adoptee voice in authenticity, I hear a ton of very exhausting and repetitive objections from the non-adopted.  Anyone who has floated … Continue reading Life Lessons For Adoptees From The Clueless People

Adoption Micro-Disruptions

Adoption Micro-Disruptions by Becca Dragon We hear it all the time “REAL families are the ones the ones that:             FOR CHILDREN:             -stay up with you all night when you are crying             -provide you with all of your opportunities             -kiss your booboos             THEN ALSO AS WE BECOME ADULTS:             -are in … Continue reading Adoption Micro-Disruptions

Unintended Othering In The Name of Protection

by: Becca Dragon (**the image is mine, and these are my children...and this is an imaginary example I created to give visual expression to what I am talking about without further othering REAL children in foster care or children in the process of being adopted).  I have noticed a lot of social media feeds lately … Continue reading Unintended Othering In The Name of Protection